Letting Go

How do you let go of the memories when it haunt you day and night?

How do you move on when you hope of that person to come back?

ALAS!

HEAR WHAT OPRAH WINFREY HAD TO SAY ABOUT MEN :

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.

Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who have a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are. Even if he has has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending... Compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships. There is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new
relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you. A relationship consists of two WHOLE
individuals. Look for someone complimentary...
not supplementary.

Dating is fun... Even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes... When a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him ~ he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.

Scared of being alone is what makes a lot of women stay in relationships that are abusive or hurtful: Dr. Phil says... You should know that: You're the best thing that could ever happen to anyone and if a man mistreats you, he'll miss out on a good thing. If he was attracted to you in the 1st place, just know that he's not the only one. They're all watching you, so you have a lot of choices. Make the right one. Ladies take care of your own hearts..❤

The Art of Letting Go

It hurts when the things you used to do for me changes and you'd say I was the one who changed it. I had been observing you. I was in pain looking at you knowing you can never be mine. It hurts to know you keep secrets. 


I kept on thinking why do you always have to hide me and have me kept as a person who never existed in your life. I always tell myself that there are good reasons behind this and I agreed with the proposition you told me. This is the choice and I have to face tomorrow with or without you. 


I was just wondering where you might have been now. What have you been doing. I was thinking of the worst and the best of luck always.. Be happy wherever you may be.

love-hate-friendship-story/poems: Confused

love-hate-friendship-story/poems: Confused: It has been almost four years since the day you told me that we are officially together but never to tell anyone even our closest friends be...

Confused

It has been almost four years since the day you told me that we are officially together but never to tell anyone even our closest friends because we need time to tell them. I had been so happy and carefully looking at the days and time just to be with you. I did an extra mile just to take care of you and to see you often. I had been cared by you. I had been loved. I had been a girl being loved.

I felt like a teenager living the life being young and in love. Reality strikes when our friends kept on asking me over and over again about us. You know I lied for you. I did what I had to do because I noticed that no matter how close I am to you it just feels to far. One friend said that "he doesn't love you because if he has he should be proud of you". An arrow hits me straight through the veins with pain and misery but still I managed to smile. I have to always think of the feeling you told before. You were so happy with me and we were.

Then, other friends said that how long will you wait for something being uncertain that can never be yours? They said that it has never been good for the girl to be a martyr. I have to open and meet other men in that way I will be able to construct life. How sad is sad when you know your friends didn't even notice your feelings towards me. I have to beg my heart to be patient because of the silence I chose.

Looking at what we are right now, you we're never proud of me at all. I had to beg you in silence. I am confused of what to do and what I should do.

We Have Grown Apart

What makes a relationship work? Is it the presence of the one being there always or the way both of you make each time counts?

It has been dreary and full of questions tot his point. I had been secured with the relationship but he shuts his doors on me. T'was painful at first and misery covers me. I cried my heart out one day that cam into night. I wanted to burst into pain that why he can't just acknowledge me.

It hurts when you are the last priority and his friends always comes first.

He Loves Me; He Loves Me Not...

I once dreamed of a beautiful love story,

There I was wishing on the bright blue sky,

Looking at a vision of an angel,

The illusion grew in depth through the years.

The paramour came to amaze the valentine,

Destiny devours the morality of truelove,

Fate left a significant mark in the heart,

And comes the astonishing ups and downs.

First it was so sacred to spend time,

It was a great time for each momment,

Love came around and played,

The sweethearts was full of trust and galdness.

These star crossed lovers enjoyed earth,

They glanced at life with each other,

Stared at the changes between them,

Watches as they realized what was missing.

In hiding to stay away from society's controversy,

Lied to cover what might break the intimacy,

Pretends being strangers to keep one's image,

One remains unseen its grueling experience.

Efforts made to let the fire stay alive,

But was taken for granted,

Cruel as it may seem for one but,

We live to love, we love to live.